Do you have a Healthy Self-Esteem? 33 Ways to Check

Self-esteem is basically your own appraisal of what you’re worth. It’s the self-talk in your mind. It’s whether or not you think you matter in this world.

Self-esteem is found from within…nobody can give it to you, although certain positive or negative events can make you feel better or worse about yourself.

33 Common Symptoms of Low Self-Esteem

You may have low esteem if you:

• Are not living in the present. You’re always thinking about the past or worrying about the future.
• Always want what’s just out of reach in order to be happy.
• Do things to undermine your own success.
• Put yourself down.
• Avoid real intimacy because you fear people won’t like you.
• Job-hop because you’re unhappy no matter where you go.
• Have a serious addiction, like alcohol, drugs or shopping.
• Don’t trust others.
• Apologize excessively.
• Constantly seek approval and validation from others.
• Neglect your physical appearance.
• Have a strong need for material possessions to show others how important you are.
• Believe you are not good enough.
• Fear new things or change.
• Have a lot of aches and pains.
• Are overly sensitive to criticism.
• Can’t get over a defeat or disappointment.
• Are hesitant to express ideas.
• Put others down or are overly crticial of others.
• Work harder and harder to extract some sort of value from work, but can’t find it.
• Boast and exaggerate, with a need to self-promote any successes.
• Don’t make eye contact.
• Feel hopeless.
• Don’t want to be held accountable.
• Lack energy.
• Are passive.
• Try to portray a false image to others because you don’t like who you really are.
• Lack a supportive network and feel isolated.
• Are anxious.
• See a small task as large and intimidating.
• Believe other people’s needs come before yours.
• Lose your temper a lot.
• Blame others for your problems.

How to Improve Self-Esteem

Thanks to the internet there are many ways to get help without even leaving your Portland home. Here are just a few:

10 Tips for Low Self-Esteem
Building Self-Esteem: A Self-Help Guide
A Guide To Self-Esteem and Self-Confidence

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